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Exploring the Ins and Outs of Mesher Orders in the UK: A Comprehensive Guide

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Introduction to Mesher Orders

In the realm of family law in the United Kingdom, there are various legal provisions and arrangements that come into play during divorce proceedings. One such arrangement that often arises is a Mesher Order. But what exactly is a Mesher Order? A Mesher Order is a court order that determines the division of assets, specifically the family home, following a divorce. It is important to understand the intricacies of this order to navigate the complex landscape of divorce proceedings in the UK and what role family mediation can play.

What is a Mesher Order?

A Mesher Order, named after the precedent-setting case that established this type of order in the UK, is an arrangement made by the court that defers the sale of the family home until a certain event occurs. This event is typically triggered by specific factors, such as when the youngest child reaches a certain age or completes their education. The primary purpose of a Mesher Order is to provide stability and accommodation for the spouse who has the primary care of the children. It allows them to remain in the family home until the specified event, at which point the property will be sold, and the proceeds will be divided between the parties involved.

When is a Mesher Order Used in Divorce?

A Mesher Order is typically used in divorce cases where there are dependent children involved. It provides a solution for the spouse with primary care of the children, allowing them to continue living in the family home until a specific event occurs. This can be particularly beneficial for the children, as it minimises disruption and maintains stability in their lives during the divorce process. Additionally, a Mesher Order can be used when there is a significant financial disparity between the two spouses, ensuring that the spouse with less financial resources is not left in a vulnerable position after the divorce.

How Does a Mesher Order Work?

Once a Mesher Order has been granted by the court, it outlines the specific conditions under which the family home will be sold in the future. These conditions can include the age of the children, their completion of education, or any other factors deemed relevant by the court. The order may also outline the percentage of the proceeds that each party will receive upon the sale of the property. It is important to note that a Mesher Order does not grant ownership of the property to any specific party but rather delays the sale until the specified event occurs.

Who Pays the Mortgage in a Mesher Order?

In a Mesher Order, the responsibility for paying the mortgage on the family home is usually determined based on the financial circumstances of both parties. Often, the spouse who remains in the family home and benefits from the Mesher Order will be responsible for paying the mortgage, as well as other associated costs such as maintenance and insurance. However, the specifics of who pays the mortgage can vary depending on the individual circumstances of the case and the agreements reached between the parties involved. It is essential to consult with legal professionals to ensure a fair and legally binding arrangement.

Enforcing a Mesher Order: What You Need to Know

Enforcing a Mesher Order can sometimes be a complex process, particularly if one party is not cooperative or refuses to comply. If the party benefiting from the Mesher Order refuses to sell the property or fails to comply with the conditions outlined in the order, legal action may be necessary. In such cases, it is crucial to seek legal advice and explore the available options to enforce the order. This may involve seeking a court order for sale, which can compel the non-compliant party to cooperate. It is important to note that the court has various powers and discretion when it comes to enforcing Mesher Orders, and each case will be treated on its own merits.

How Likely is a Mesher Order in Family Law Cases?

The likelihood of a Mesher Order being granted in family law cases depends on several factors, including the specific circumstances of the case and the needs of the children involved. Mesher Orders are typically more common when dependent children are present, as they provide stability and accommodation for the primary caregiver. Additionally, the financial disparity between the parties can also be a determining factor. If one spouse has significantly more financial resources than the other, a Mesher Order may be more likely to ensure a fair division of assets. However, each case is unique, and the court will consider a range of factors before deciding on the appropriateness of a Mesher Order.

Alternatives to Mesher Orders in Divorce Cases

While Mesher Orders can be a useful solution in certain divorce cases, they are not the only option available. There are alternative arrangements that can be considered, depending on the specific circumstances of the case. One such alternative is a Martin Order, which is similar to a Mesher Order but allows for a deferred sale of the property while granting the occupying spouse a greater share of the proceeds. Another alternative is a Pension Sharing Order, which involves dividing the pension assets between the parties. It is important to consult with legal professionals to explore the various options and determine the most appropriate arrangement for your specific situation.

Disadvantages of a Mesher Order

While Mesher Orders can provide stability and accommodation for the primary caregiver and the children involved, they also come with certain disadvantages. One significant disadvantage is the potential for ongoing financial ties between the parties, as the sale of the property is deferred. This can lead to ongoing financial obligations and potential disputes in the future. Additionally, the non-occupying spouse may face difficulties in securing housing or obtaining a mortgage due to their ongoing financial ties to the family home. It is essential to carefully consider the potential disadvantages of a Mesher Order before pursuing this course of action.

Mesher Order Costs and Considerations

Before proceeding with a Mesher Order, it is important to be aware of the associated costs and considerations. Legal fees can vary depending on the complexity of the case and the amount of negotiation required. You may wish to look at mediation as a cheaper option. It is always advisable to seek legal advice and obtain a clear understanding of the potential costs involved before making any decisions. Additionally, it is crucial to consider the long-term financial implications of a Mesher Order, including ongoing mortgage payments and potential disputes in the future. Careful consideration and professional guidance can help ensure that you make informed decisions that are in the best interests of all parties involved.

Understanding the Meaning of a Mesher Order

To fully comprehend the implications of a Mesher Order, it is essential to understand its meaning within the context of divorce proceedings. A Mesher Order is a legally binding court order that defers the sale of the family home until a specified event occurs. It provides stability and accommodation for the spouse with primary care of the children and aims to ensure a fair division of assets. While it can be a beneficial arrangement in certain cases, it also comes with potential disadvantages and ongoing financial ties. Understanding the meaning of a Mesher Order is crucial in navigating the complexities of divorce proceedings and making informed decisions.

Mesher Order Templates and Resources for Divorce Proceedings

If you are considering pursuing a Mesher Order in your divorce proceedings, there are various templates and resources available to assist you. These templates can provide a starting point for drafting the necessary legal documents and ensure that you include all the essential information required by the court. Additionally, there are numerous resources, such as legal websites and forums, where you can find guidance and support from professionals and individuals who have gone through similar processes. It is important to note that while these resources can be helpful, it is always advisable to seek legal advice to ensure that your specific circumstances are taken into account.

Benefits of Mediation in Resolving Property and Financial Issues

Preserving Emotional Well-being: Divorces are already emotionally taxing. The adversarial nature of court battles can add to the stress. Mediation, on the other hand, provides a neutral, calming environment where parties can discuss their issues without the pressure of litigation.

Ensuring Privacy: Unlike court proceedings, which are public, mediation sessions are confidential. This privacy allows for open dialogue without the fear of public scrutiny.

Control Over Outcome: In mediation, the parties retain control over the decisions, unlike court processes where decisions are in the hands of a judge.

The Synergy of Mediation and Mesher Orders

Given the benefits of mediation, it is evident how it can be pivotal in agreeing on Mesher Order terms:

In-depth Discussions: Mediation offers ample time and opportunity to discuss the implications of a Mesher Order, ensuring both parties understand the long-term consequences.

Flexibility: Through mediation, parties can agree on specific terms of the Mesher Order, such as exact trigger events for property sale, ensuring the order caters to the family’s unique needs.

Case Study: Sarah and David’s Journey

Sarah and David, after sharing 15 cherished years of marriage, decided to part ways. While their love waned, their commitment to their two children never faltered. Their main contention, the family home, became a topic of several discussions.

Opting for family mediation with Direct Mediation Services, Sarah and David explored various financial options. The mediator introduced the concept of a Mesher Order. Several sessions were spent understanding its implications and tailoring it to their situation.

Ultimately, Sarah could continue providing a stable environment for their children in the family home. David, while ensuring his equity remained intact, found solace in knowing his children’s lives remained undisturbed.

Additional Considerations in Mesher Orders

When deliberating on Mesher Orders, it’s essential to consider:

Tax Implications: The deferred sale might have capital gains tax implications that need a thorough examination.

Maintenance Costs: Who will bear the ongoing maintenance costs of the property? This can be another discussion point in mediation.

Mortgage Issues: If the property has a mortgage, how will mortgage payments be managed? Mediation can help parties arrive at an equitable solution.

Outline of a Mesher Order

Here is a generic outline of what a Mesher Order might look like, but please note that this is a generalisation, and the actual order can vary depending on the jurisdiction, specific circumstances of the case, and other considerations. If you’re drafting an actual Mesher Order, it is highly recommended to seek legal counsel to ensure the order’s accuracy and validity.




– Applicant


– Respondent


Upon hearing the solicitor/barrister for the Applicant and the solicitor/barrister for the Respondent,


The property known as , registered at the under title number , herein referred to as “the Property”, shall not be sold or otherwise disposed of until the occurrence of the first of the following trigger events:

  1. The youngest child of the family, namely , attains the age of ;
  2. The remarriage or cohabitation of the Applicant for a continuous period of more than months;
  3. The death of the Applicant;
  4. Further order of this Court.

The Applicant is granted the right to occupy the Property until the occurrence of one of the trigger events mentioned above.

Both parties shall contribute to the mortgage repayments in the following manner:

Any maintenance, repair, and insurance obligations concerning the Property shall be borne by .

Upon the occurrence of one of the trigger events, the Property shall be sold, and the proceeds of sale (after payment of any mortgage or other encumbrances and sale costs) shall be divided as follows: .

If either party wishes to purchase the other’s interest in the Property, they may do so at a valuation agreed upon by both parties or determined by an independent valuer.

Any disputes arising from this Order shall, in the first instance, be referred back to this Court for determination.

It is to be understood that this is a very basic outline, and the actual order may need to address more detailed considerations depending on the specific circumstances. It is always recommended to consult with a legal professional when drafting or considering such orders.

The Mesher Order: What can we learn from history?


The Mesher Order takes its name from the divorce case of Mesher v Mesher 1 WLR 601. This was a landmark decision that laid down the principles behind the use of deferred property sale orders in divorce settlements.

The Case

In the Mesher v Mesher case, Mrs. Mesher petitioned for the family home to be sold, and the proceeds divided, giving her a significant majority due to her and her children’s needs. However, Mr. Mesher wanted to delay the sale until their youngest child reached 17 or finished their education. The courts originally ruled in favour of Mrs. Mesher, but on appeal, it was decided that the sale of the family home would be postponed as Mr. Mesher wished.

Significance of the Decision

The decision recognised the importance of:

Child Welfare: The courts placed emphasis on the welfare of the children. The idea was to prevent upheaval in their lives by moving homes during their formative years.

Balancing Financial Interests: The order tried to strike a balance. It acknowledged the financial contribution of both spouses, ensuring that neither would be unfairly disadvantaged in the long term.

Post-Mesher Developments

Following the Mesher v Mesher decision, similar orders became more commonplace in divorce settlements where the primary concern was the welfare of the children and ensuring stability in their living arrangements.

Another notable case that built upon the principles of Mesher was Martin v Martin Fam 335. This order, sometimes referred to as a “Martin Order,” allows for the sale of the family home but gives the former spouse (often the primary caregiver of the children) the right to live in the property or a portion of it, rent-free for a specified period.

Over the years, these orders have been used, debated, and refined based on evolving societal norms, economic considerations, and individual family needs.

Contemporary Relevance

Today, while Mesher Orders remain a useful tool in certain divorce scenarios, they’re not always the default choice. They can be seen as a double-edged sword: on one side, they offer stability for the children, but on the other, they can lock up the financial assets of the parties, leading to potential future conflicts.

Some criticisms include:

Financial Limitations: The party not residing in the house (often the husband) might find it challenging to acquire a new property due to their equity being tied up in the family home.

Dependent on Property Market: If the property market declines, the deferred sale might lead to reduced equity for both parties when the property is eventually sold.

Emotional Closure: Delaying the sale can prolong emotional ties to a shared property, potentially delaying emotional closure post-divorce.

Meet Lesley: An Accredited Family Mediator

For those seeking mediation services, it’s essential to find a mediator who not only has the training but also brings a wealth of life experience and unique perspective to the table. Lesley, one of our accredited family mediators, is one such individual.

A Rich Background

Before venturing into mediation, Lesley dedicated 25 years to research and marketing. Collaborating with national entities and familiar household brands, she evaluated the impact of their products and services. This foundation endowed her with a unique understanding of human behaviour, decision-making processes, and effective communication.

Journey into Mediation

In 2015, Lesley pivoted to a second career, undergoing training with the Family Mediators Association. She started off working in administration for a local mediation practice, which furnished her with an intimate understanding of a client’s journey through the mediation process. This hands-on experience honed her skills in individual client meetings, underscoring the significance of guiding clients through the mediation procedure.

Lesley fervently believes in the power of mediation as a tool for resolution. In her words, it’s a chance to “understand the opportunity that mediation offers to reach agreements and sidestep costly, stressful court proceedings.”

Specialisation in Financial Mediation

Financial matters can be a minefield in mediation. However, with extensive training and a keen interest in the domain, Lesley has excelled in financial mediation. She relishes the challenge of navigating the myriad solutions each unique financial case presents, always aiming to empower her clients to reach feasible, practical agreements.

Adapting to the Digital Age

Lesley is also at the forefront of online mediation, recognising its convenience and efficiency, especially in financial cases. As she mentions, this process “translates well to financial mediation”, with clients feeling more at ease in their familiar surroundings.

Further Credentials

Lesley holds accreditation from the Family Mediation Council in all issues. She’s particularly adept at handling cases involving teenagers, informed in part by her personal experience as a mother of two teenagers. Additionally, Lesley’s work extends to assisting clients on the autistic spectrum. She proudly holds a membership with the Family Mediation Association.

In Conclusion

Lesley’s multifaceted background, combined with her genuine passion for mediation, makes her an invaluable asset. Whether it is financial disputes, issues related to children, or more, Lesley brings empathy, clarity, and resolution to the table. If you seek someone with the expertise, commitment, and personal touch, look no further than Lesley.

Get in touch

Mesher Orders play a significant role in divorce proceedings in the UK, particularly when dependent children are involved. They provide stability and accommodation for the spouse with primary care of the children and aim to ensure a fair division of assets. However, they also come with potential disadvantages and ongoing financial ties. It is crucial to carefully consider the specific circumstances of your case and seek professional advice to determine the most appropriate course of action. By understanding the ins and outs of Mesher Orders, you can navigate the complexities of divorce proceedings with greater confidence and make informed decisions that are in the best interests of all parties involved.

 Family mediation offers a constructive approach to one of life’s most challenging phases. Direct Mediation Services, with its team of experienced professionals, ensures couples find common ground, especially concerning sensitive issues like Mesher Orders.

If you’re in the midst of a challenging separation and need a collaborative solution, consider Direct Mediation Services. Embrace the opportunity to prioritise the well-being of your family and approach us to chart a peaceful path forward.

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